What is Al-Anon?

Al-Anon is a recovery program for the families and friends of alcoholics.  We believe alcoholism is a family illness and affects many people who have a relationship with the individual who drinks.  This may include the spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, parent, son or daughter, friend, coworker, grandparent, sibling, anyone who is affected by someone else’s drinking.  Even if that someone does not believe he or she is an alcoholic, -  if the drinking bothers you, you can go to Al-Anon.  We practice the 12 Steps of recovery, similar to Alcoholics Anonymous’ 12 steps, and we help each other by sharing our experience, strength and hope.

 How do I find a meeting?

You can look on the Meeting Schedule page and find a meeting near you.  You can call the information line (316-266-8499) and someone should return your call; they will  give you information regarding the program and a meeting to fit your needs.  You can also call the contact number for one of the meetings on the meeting schedule page  for more information, such as directions.  Once you find a meeting time and place that suits you, just show up!

What happens at the meeting?

The format of each meeting is somewhat different but most of the time, it is just members sharing with each other.  We often read from Al-Anon literature and then comment on what we have read and how it relates to us.  We keep the focus on ourselves, what is going on in our lives and what we can do in a healthy way to make it better.  Usually each person shares in turn.  You may choose  to share or to pass -  it’s up to you.  The meetings usually last for one hour.   If you don’t feel comfortable at the first group you attend, try another.  We encourage all newcomers to attend at least 6 meetings before deciding whether Al-Anon is for them; every group has its own personality and you need to find one you feel comfortable attending. 

 Does it cost anything?

No, Al-Anon has no fees.  We do pass a basket at meetings for voluntary contributions; this allows us to be self-supporting, which is an important principle in our traditions. 

 Is it a religious program?  Is it a professional program? 

No and No!  Al-Anon is a spiritual program; it  is not affiliated with any religion.  Members of any faith, or of no faith, can still find peace and serenity within the 12 steps.  Al-Anon is not a professional program; there are no counselors or professionals giving advice.  We try never to give advice.  We share our stories and struggles with each other, work  the twelve steps, and read Al-Anon literature, and that’s how we begin to change our lives.    

 What if I don’t live with the alcoholic anymore?

Al-Anon may still be for you.  The patterns of behavior developed from living with alcoholism can last a long time.  In fact, many adult children of alcoholics have found a changed way to live and enjoy healthy relationships by working the Al-Anon program.  There are some meetings that focus on Adult children of Alcoholics; look for the notation “AC” on the directory. 

 What if I still have questions?

Ask!! Most members are more than willing to answer any questions at the end of or after the meeting.  Or, if you are uncomfortable asking, just keep coming back.  The answers will come to you in time.  You will discover a new family, a group of people who understand as no one else does and who already care about you, even as you walk in the door.